Sometimes prepared months in advance and other times the night before the groom’s speech is a highly anticipated moment at any wedding.
For the groom, it is an opportunity to express his feeling on the most special day of his life and provide thanks to those who made it all possible.
Keeping a calm composure mixed with sincerity and the occasional touch of humour all go into making a great speech. Here are our tips on writing a wedding day speech that hits the mark.
When does the groom need to make his speech?
Usually, speeches will be conducted after the wedding breakfast. The father of the bride will be the first to make his speech. The groom will then take his turn followed by the best man.
In terms of timing, 10 minutes is adequate for each speech. After each speech a toast should be proposed by the person giving the speech. For example, the groom may say:
“I’d like to conclude my speech by proposing a toast to my beautiful bride”. Sarah is everything I could have wished for and my soul mate. So please be upstanding and raise your glasses to the beautiful bride”.
Writing Your Speech
The most difficult part of writing any speech is getting started. There are many sites available on the web that have template wedding speeches available. Whilst you may not want to copy these verbatim, they can be great to start with and edit as you go along.
There are specific things that you should cover if you want to remain in line with tradition.
- As a starting point, thank the father of the bride for his speech (he will usually have completed his speech before yours). If the father of the bride is not present, then this may be the bride’s stepfather or mother.
- Thank the guests for coming, the bride’s parents, groom’s parents (for bringing up the perfect child) and the best man (for saving him from being cellophaned to the local town hall during the stag do) in that order. A great tip here is to start this part with “My wife and I would like to thank …” which normally raises a cheer!
- At this stage, also thank anyone else that has played a significant part in the wedding and present bouquets to both mothers. You can also say thanks to the ushers and pageboys at this stage.
- The groom then focuses on his bride, complementing his beautiful new wife.
- Finally, the speech ends with a toast to the bridesmaids. If you like, you can also hand out gifts to them at this stage.
A few things to avoid in the speech
There are always some things to avoid doing or saying prior to and during the speech. There may be a myriad of things you can do to raise a laugh but be careful. It’s very easy for a joke made in bad taste to upset people.
- Try and refrain from drinking too much. Wedding days can heighten nerves and you’ll need to concentrate when it’s your turn to speak
- Don’t include foul language. There are always varied age groups and it can be very easy to offend
- Don’t talk badly about anyone – keep the speech positive and uplifting.
It’s all in the delivery ..
Remember that everyone will be intently listening to what you have to say. Even if you’re used to public speaking, you’ll find that you have the attention of the audience more than usual.
Try not to robotically read from a script. Prepare your speech well in advance and practice it frequently. If you can speak looking at your audience without referring to your notes too much, that’s great. However, if you do need to read directly from notes that’s fine – just project your voice and stay focused on the content.
Once all the speeches are delivered the end of the formalities are over and the celebrations begin.
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